Intelligence is often times associated with having a high IQ, or the ability to perform a variety of academic skills with excellence. This, however, is not a sufficient definition of intelligence. Intelligence is a trait that should lead one to further success in all areas of life, not just academically, but at home, at work, at school; everywhere. To possess emotional intelligence is the most realistic exemplification of what it means to be intelligent.
Emotional intelligence involves understanding and controlling ones emotions in even the most stressful and trying situations. In a general sense, it is obvious how important this ability is in the struggle to be successful – those who know how to deal with people in any setting tend to go
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In maintaining any form of stability and normalcy in life, control of emotions becomes necessary. Those who over react, accuse, or tend to argue on impulse tend to lack such capacity. They tend to be taken less seriously; thus, to have the capability to restrain ones immediate thoughts and reflect on them is a sign of emotional intelligence, which unquestionably rewards one in disagreeable atmospheres. There are five elements of this intelligence theory: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. (Daniel Goleman, 2011) Those who are emotionally intelligent understand their own emotions, and are not restrained by them. They regulate these in order to maintain balance; often times they can comfort themselves so to not over react. These traits allow them to be empathetic and compassionate with others; it is essential to understand that to comprehend why emotional intelligence is so important. This empathy and understanding of how people work (not to be confused, although similar to, Howard Gardner’s interpersonal intelligence category in his theory of Multiple Intelligences) is a critical factor in being successful in not just work, but love, marriage, and parenting as well. Understanding people makes all social situations easier and more rewarding. IQ test scores are all too often utilized as the exclusive factor of intelligence. While they may be an adequate indicator of intellectuality and rational decision-making,