Essay on Sibling Spats
“Both of you, to your rooms, now!” This is the typical punishment that used to
arise from sibling rivalry, but what are parents to do now when the fighting turns into
physical violence? The usual reprimanding may not be enough to calm the raging waters.
There are various suggested ways to control child behavior, but the problem is finding the
appropriate method for the right family.
The first step to finding a solution is locating the roots of the problems. When the
children are subjected to constant socialization, they learn to share and use their siblings as
a sort of “testing ground.” This time helps shape the child’s personalities and other
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are their child’s learning experiences. Children should be acquiring skills that will be
useful later in life. When the small arguments do lead to punches and hurtful name calling,
parents need to react as if it is someone else’s child being assailed. Most parents don’t
punish their child as harshly for beating on their siblings as they would for picking on
another playmate. This makes the child feel as if it is okay to annoy their siblings.
Punishment needs to be the same for all cases, especially when it comes to bullying (Child
Behavior 215 - 216).
Children can also work to prevent fighting on their own. Sometimes children pick
fights with their sibs because they are angry with themselves and there is no one else on
which to take out their anger and because they cannot hit their mother or father, the child
usually uses their siblings as the punching bag. Older children are more aware of the
constant frustration around them and they are more open and understanding of solutions.
There are many techniques that a more mature child can use to avoid and help heal sibling
rivalry. Bode suggests that this child develops a daily routine that is followed precisely at
all times. This keeps the mind off of outside disturbances, even if they are within the